Hollywood stays throwing shade at the big girls...

So, a few weeks ago, I got up around 6 a.m. to get the kids ready for school. I turned the tv on to TVOne as I do every morning- hoping to catch Eve's old sitcom that used to come on, which I somehow missed back when it was on tv- only to find that Eve had been replaced with The Parkers. I used to love this show too, back in the 90's, so all was well. However, after only a few minutes into the episode, I became totally disgusted...with Nikki Parker. I rolled my eyes so many times, I'm surprised they didn't get stuck as I watched her throw herself at Professor Ogelvee, over and over, while he pushed her away (sometimes literally), and looked and acted as if he couldn't stand the site of her. Yet, no matter how many times,or in how many ways, he told her he didn't want her ass, she kept going back for more.

I literally wanted to jump through the tv, and slap some sense into her while yelling, "Girrrllll...THE MAN DON'T WANT YOU!!!! Have some self-respect about yourself." It's weird that what I used to think was funny so many years ago when I was a teenager, now makes me shake my head in shame and embarrassment. She was breaking into this man's house, fighting every woman (who all happened to be skinny and beautiful) that Stanley- who really wasn't all that to me- started dating...just straight up stalking the man, and it's truly pathetic watching this show now, but there's not a lot on worth watching at 6 in the morning.

Nikki reminds me of so many women I know, who allow horrible treatment from men, just hoping that one day, he'll come to his senses and love her back; or, he'll get jealous when she finds someone else to stalk, I mean love, and she's no longer kissing his ass anymore. Such as the time when Nikki started dating another guy, who I think initially only got with her as a joke or a bet between him and The Professor (again as if the big girls can't possibly get a man to want her unless some type of trickery is involved) but then decided that he really liked her, so she started ignoring Stannnnnley, and only then did he realize that he was in love with her. And in typical fashion, once she broke things off with a man who seemingly adored her, and the professor had her attention focused back on him, he quickly realized it was all a mistake, and he went back to treating her like the annoying crap on the bottom of his shoe...and she willingly allowed herself to act as his own personal doormat to wipe it off on, and keep going. In the end- I mean the very end of the series- the professor finally falls in love with Nikki. It's all quite sad, actually! After years of stalking him, she got her man...and all she had to do was demean, embarrass herself repeatedly, and let him tear her down- destroying any ounce of self-esteem she had- to get him. So, what did she really win??
I mean, I get it! Growing up, I had a low self-esteem too, and I know how it feels to love someone who doesn't love you back, because I've been there...more times than I care to admit. The only difference was, I refused to beg any man to love me or be with me. Hell to the nah.. there are just too many fish in the fishbowl to be doing all that. When my first love up and decided that he didn't want me anymore, as much as it hurt, mentally, I threw him the deuces, and moved on...at least out in public. Now, at home, I cried my eyes out while hoping he'd realize he was being a damn fool and come back to me...but he didn't know that; and we never got back together, THANK GOD! Like Judge Toler on Divorce Court says, "Never let a man tell you he don't want you more than once!" I wish someone had told Nikki Parker that, because I literally cringe every time I hear her say, "Heeeyyyyy Professor Ogelvee!" and I can only shake my head in embarrassment FOR HER when he does any and everything he can do to avoid her at all costs.  Like...it's not funny anymore. 

So in my Carrie Bradshaw voice, I can't help but wonder...why does the big woman always have to play the lonely, insecure, desperate roles on tv shows and movies? If she's not begging some man to love her, she's being portrayed as the funny side-kick (i.e.Nikki's homegirl, Andele and her daughter, the ever delusional, so-dumb-it's-not-even-funny, Kim). 

It's like Hollywood has decided that a woman of a certain size, can't be the smart, sexy, confident woman who won't take crap from a man, and who won't hesitate to get his ass in check (i.e Gabrielle Union or Vivica Fox) Nope, the bigger women are only there to provide the comic relief. For instance, in one of my favorite old romantic comedies, Two Can Play That Game, once again, Mo'Nique is there to provide the laughs, while her three friends stand by and throw shade on the sly (remember the scene in the dress shop when Mo'Nique jokes about being in the skinny girl store and she'd have to sew two dresses together just to be able to fit into one). Whhyyyyy??? Was it too far-fetched to think that she and Vivica could have exchanged roles? Then, you have Melissa McCarthy. I'm not a fan of hers, but I do keep up with my movies, and I know that she's another big girl that the pimps that be in Hollywood, love to exploit. She get's roles like, Tammy (even the previews looks bad) and the lone big girlfriend in Bridesmaids; or Jill Scott (who I love) but I was soooo mad at Tyler Perry for the sad, sappy way she was portrayed in Why Did I Get Married- when her douchebag of a husband was cheating on her with a much younger, prettier, and skinner woman- and cracked jokes about her weight when she tried to surprise him with the lingerie...stuff like that irks the hell out of me. 

Don't get it twisted, smaller women have just as many issues, and some have an even lower self-esteem, than us big girls, so Hollywood, pleeasssseeee stop trying to make it seem like, as long as you're a size two, you'll float through life, totally unbothered when it comes to love and relationships, because that is a big load of you know what. Don't believe me? Well, let's discuss. I love me some Halle Berrrryyyyy, Halle Berry (Hurricane Chris voice) she's still a bad mama jama; however, as beautiful and petite as she is, that girl has the absolute WORSE taste and luck with men. Need I mention that Jennifer Aniston- America's sweetheart- let Angelina straight snatch her husband, and she still hasn't gotten over it. I mean sure, I hear she has a man these days, but who can really replace Brad Pitt??? Exactly! Then there's J. Lo. Nobody can hold a candle to this chick with her big big booty, what you got a big booty (that song is growing on me), but she's looking for husband #4, "allegedly" according to Wendy Williams. As successful and beautiful as these women are, they can't get and/or keep a man for very long either, so please STOP in the name of love, with this notion that big girls are the only women having a hard time with the fellas. 

Unfortunately, I've typed all of this in vain, because my thick sista's seem to by type-casted... anybody over a size 10 are only allowed certain roles, and will always be viewed as less beautiful and desirable, compared to their perfect size 6 counterparts. If Hollywood wasn't stuck back in the old days, the powers that be would know that these days, most men like women with a little meat on their bones; thickness and big ol' butts are in style now (and not just for Black women) and not every man wants a skinny stick figure barbie doll (Meghan Trainor's words, not mine) Oh wait, I'd better retract that last line, because I hear Meghan is catching hell for this song. She's embracing her curves, and people don't like it...go figure. So, let me get this straight- we're supposed to be fat, lonely, and depressed...not voluptuous, beautiful, sexy, and confident, so that skinny women can feel better about themselves? Girl BYE!! A'int nobody got time for that!!