Saturday, August 1, 2015

People love your work...until they have to pay for it.




I've been a published author for a little over a year now, and I must say...it's a lot of hard work, sweat, sleepless nights, and tears...but I love it. Unfortunately, I have yet to write the book that allows me to quit my daytime job and become a writer full time, so everyday, aside from my job as a wife and mom, I have to hit the time clock at my, not-so-exciting job as a cashier, because it pays the bills. 

Which brings me to the reason for this post. Yes, writing is my second gig. Anything that you do that earns you money, is a job. Writing for me, is a JOB! Something that I devote hours and hours to, when I'd much rather have my feet kicked up, watching tv, or hanging out with my husband and children...it's something I put serious thought, effort, and hard work into (when I don't have writer's block, a*k*a*- procrastinating by checking my social media). A lot goes into the process of writing a book, from the time I come up with a story idea in my head, develop characters, dialogue, etc. etc...then begin the task of typing it all up until it becomes a book. That can mean typing entire pages of material, then deciding I want to go another route, so I delete pages and pages of work, only to re-write it. As dreadful as this is, I don't mind, beause in the end when my readers tell me how much they loved my book, it's all worth it. Then, after all the writing and re-writing is done, I have to have it edited, hire a graphics designer to come up with an awesome book cover, and pay to have the book published into print and shipped to me. 

With that being said, not only am I spending a lot of time on my books, I'm coming up out of pocket, spending quite a few coins, so I can hand the finished product to you to read and enjoy. So, please stop asking and expecting me to hand you these books for FREE, after so much has gone into publishing a book. It's no different than you going to your job and you forget to clock in when you get there- after you've worked the whole day, only then do you realize you never punched the time clock at the beginning of your shift. After all the hard work you've put in, you wanna be paid, right? Well, so do authors. 

We live in a society where people want something for nothing. In the book world, so many authors have started pricing books at $0.99, whether it's a marketing ploy, or as lesser known authors often do, price them this low to gain a little more exposure and readers. Whatever the reason, readers have gotten spoiled and expect 200-300 page books to be priced at $0.99, if not FREE. I am a firm believer that people pay for what they really want to pay for. As an avid reader, it's nothing for me to pay $14.00-$15.00 for a book...if I really want it bad enough. I used to be in Black Expressions Book Club, where all they offered were hardback books, and they weren't cheap. But, I didn't care, if I wanted it, I bought it. If you want a pair of Nikes, Jordan's, or Louboutin's bad enough, you'll buy them, no matter how expensive. So, why is it a problem to pay an author more than $0.99 for a book? 

I donated several of my books to the public library, which is how a lot of people found out about my books. But, I also keep a box of paperback books in my car, always ready to get my hustle on just in case I come across a potential reader who may want one. What I'm usually met with is, "I read your books, and I just love your work; such and such book was soooo good; when does the next one come out?" When I respond that I have other books that aren't in the library, but they can order them on Amazon or I have paperbacks available now if they want one, I'm given the response, "Oh...well, maybe I'll check them out another time," before they walk away. HUH? They just got done telling me how much they enjoyed the FREE books I offered in the library, but when I say I have other books for $5.00, their whole demeanor changes and they walk away faster than I can blink. It's not that they can't pay $5.00 for a book, they just don't WANT to.



Well, just like you don't find the idea of working for free appealing, neither do I. It's the story of my life- people have always taken my kindness as a sign of weakness. Sorry, not sorry- but being nice to people doesn't feed my family or pay my bills. I may not be a New York Times Bestselling author- YET- but I'm an author, just the same, and I can't afford to write for free. I get all kinds of excuses from people as to why they can't pay me for my books...usually after I've already handed it to them. Now, I've gotten smarter, until I see money and it's in my hand, my book stays in the car. I love and appreciate everyone who reads work, I just need y'all to love and appreciate me enough to pay me for it. Please & Thank You! 

Wednesday, July 29, 2015

Coming Soon: Extracurricular Activity by ME!!!!



I have a few projects that I'm working on. I finished The Hookup, my first book to be released under Blackhouse Publishing. I had expected to have that one released on July 28th, but due to issues with the editor being back up, it's been pushed back to hopefully, September 1st, my birthday!

In the meantime, I've also finished a BWWM story, called Sweet Taboo- no estimated release date on that one, since it's also to be released under Blackhouse. Also, I'm currently writing Extracurricular Activity, which will be released under my own Lady Virgo Publications. I hope to have it released around the end of September or early October. I absolutely love this cover, which was designed by the very talented Amb Aija Monique of AMB Branding, one of the best graphics designers out there. I've included a brief synopsis of the book below. Stay tuned...

Synopsis: 

After the extravagant wedding- the beautiful photos, cutting the cake, the first dance while staring lovingly into each others eyes, and an expensive honeymoon- then you enter into the real world of marriage. And for anybody that's married or has ever been married, you know that sometimes, the wedding day was the last time you shared any romantic feelings towards your spouse.

The couples you're going to read about have found out that marriage is hard and now that the honeymoon is over, they have fallen out of love, like, and lust with each other, so they've decided to step outside their marriages for a little 'extracurricular activity', seeking the passion they once felt for their spouses.

But just like in a marriage, the sexual spark fizzles out in their steamy affairs, and they quickly learn that what's done in the dark always comes to the light eventually, and that's when the real trouble begins

Book Review: Naughty 2: My Way Or The Highway by Brenda Hampton



I went against my better judgement and read book 2 in Brenda Hampton's Naughty series...now I know why people say, "Always follow your first instinct." I wanted to throw my Kindle against the wall so many times while reading this book. Luckily, I didn't. Instead, I would calmly put it down, and walk away until I could stomach these characters some more, which is why it took me longer then usual to finish it.

Synopsis:

Jaylin Jerome Rogers is back, and he's naughtier than ever!
After his marriage proposal is rejected by the only woman he's ever loved, Jaylin has come to the conclusion that women are only good for one thing. Now he's on a mission to fulfill his desires at all costs, and any woman who gets with him is in for a rough ride. Still, no matter how disrespectful or cruel he has become, his wealth, good looks, and talent in the bedroom make it easy for him to have a new playmate for every night of the week.
Just when Jaylin thinks life is perfect and everything is going his way, a past lover delivers a shocking message to him. This staggering revelation sends him traveling back down memory lane, and Jaylin realizes that the women he disrespected are the very women he needs.
Will Jaylin finally learn that it's not all about him, or will he be forever naughty?

Review:

This book and the characters just made my head hurt. I literally can't stand Jaylin, and I found myself having to remind myself several times that he's just a fictional character. The women are so dicmatized, it's ridiculous and I could no longer feel any ounce of sympathy for any of them when Jaylin mentally, emotionally, sexually, and physically abused them, because they allowed it. Just when I told myself I cannot and will not read another book about these silly, simple-minded people, Brenda threw a monkey wrench at the end of the book, and my curiosity has me wanting to know what will happen next, although it will probably be a while before I do. I mean, I get it- I've been foolish in love a time or two myself. Most hopeless romantics usually are. I've stayed with men who had no intention of ever treating me the way I wanted to be treated, just like Jaylin. But even I knew when to say, enough is enough...AND MEAN IT! These chicks kept whining about how horribly Jaylin treated them and disrespected them, but the minute he initiated sex, they folded so quickly and easily, I just wanted to scream. Jaylin and his buddies represent everything in men that I absolutely hate. Women are just games and objects to them. They fall in love based on looks and who's better in bed, and they've all slept with the same women, so the sitting around comparing notes about the women they've shared (or plan to share) just made me sick. These men would never get a second glance from me. I can spot a dog a mile away, and money or a big, uh, package, doesn't get or keep my attention; unfortunately, the same can't be said for Nokea, Scorpio, Felciai, Daisha, or any of the other female characters in this book. 

Rating:





I give this book four stars, if only for the fact that the author was able to get so many emotions from me while I was reading, meaning she did her job. I have never literally gotten a headache while reading because the characters were so stupid and nauseating...


Thursday, July 23, 2015

Nobody will ever make me believe Sandy Bland killed herself..


I sit here typing this post through blurred vision from the tears falling down my face. Ever since #SandyBland was found dead in her cell three days after a traffic stop led to her arrest, the media has tried to paint her as the aggressor of the situation that resulted in her death- as they always do anytime a black man or woman is killed in incidences involving the police. This time was no different. The officer pulled Sandy over for failure to signal...okay, I get that. Initially, he was going to let her go with a warning, until she exercised her First Amendment right to free speech, verbally challenging not only the officer's authority, but his manhood & even bigger ego.

In the video, Sandy was clearly agitated at having been pulled over. She's mouthing off about being stopped, which is still not a crime. The officer- seeing that she is already upset- decided to use the fact that he had authority over the situation and decided to toy with her a little. His line of questioning about why she seems agitated and asking if she was okay, had nothing to do with the reason why he pulled her over, and this strong-minded woman let him know that. The turning point, and the moment that went from the officer being amused by her snappy comments to becoming angered by the fact that this woman dared talk back to him, came when he told her to put the cigarette out. And her refusal to do so set everything off. He tells her to get out of the car. Her saying no resulted in him opening the door and dragging her out of her car, completely violating her rights. You can hear her challenging his authority in the video below:







For all of you conservative bigots on social media who wanna say, "She should have just followed orders," I have one thing to say: FUCK YOU! I have seen with my own eyes and heard with my own ears many white folks not only talk back to police, but blatantly tell them they know their rights, and refuse certain orders, so miss me with that. She had the same rights you have, and even though she was talking back, she did nothing to warrant the way she was treated by him. I've been pulled over a few times before, and while I find most officers rude and arrogant, I know the best way to avoid trouble and a possible ticket, is to just keep my mouth shut, which is what he expected Sandy to do...only she didn't.

She did nothing wrong that day. She stood up to a bully- a man who was stronger than she was, had a weapon, and authority over her. And like most bullies, he couldn't handle the fact that the person he was attempting to exercise control over- both mentally & physically- refused to go down without a fight. He wanted to get a negative reaction from her, which is why he kept trying to bait her by commenting on the fact that she was obviously agitated. To show her he was the boss, he demanded that she put out her cigarette, again, wanting a reaction from her and when she gave him the reaction he wanted, he seized the moment to open her door, pull her out of the car and onto the ground. And still, Sandy kept fighting back- with her words. She couldn't overpower him physically, but she gave him a verbal ass whipping...again, something he couldn't handle, and obviously wasn't used to. She can be heard saying, "Oh, you feel real good about yourself, don't you?" which bruised his fragile ego. She knew he was wrongfully restraining her, which is why she kept thanking the person recording the confrontation...they both knew that she could and would sue his ass in court, and win. It's that realization that led to the officer telling the person recording the video to leave. He's on a public highway, not doing anything, yet he's being ordered to walk away. He didn't want his crime being recorded. Thankfully, it was. From experience, I know that any time a woman stands up to a man who's attempting to control and overpower her, and verbally attacks his manhood, she'd better be ready to fight for her life. That's what Sandy did...unfortunately, she lost that fight.

We will never know how she ended up dead in her cell. The police will have you believe that she was high at the time of her autopsy, and that she somehow managed to get a plastic trash bag in her cell and hang herself, but that excuses is faker than a two dollar bill. In the days since her death, I've watched the video series she posted on her Facebook page called #SandySpeaks, where she was an advocate for #BlackLivesMatter. I got chills when I watched a video she posted back in April, in which she is in tears as she praised God repeatedly for sparing her life after she'd been involved in a car accident and walked away unharmed...only to turn around and be found dead in her cell a few weeks ago after being dragged from her vehicle. The movie, Final Destination immediately came to mind as I realized she avoided death a few short months ago, but it came back for her, and this time succeeded in taking her life. 
Watch the video below: 




The woman in the video above- who keeps saying over and over "God is good" for sparing her life- is not a woman who wanted to die. She was strong and passionate in her truth and beliefs, and even though the cops who killed her, and the media want us to believe that she was suicidal in the days and weeks prior to this, nobody will ever make me believe this woman killed herself, especially not after watching this video.The woman looking into that camera on her video series, saying exactly how she felt about the genocide of black people, was not suicidal or depressed. I've been suicidal and depressed. It's a horrible feeling thinking death is your only option. And I've felt that way more than once in my almost 37 years of life. Everybody has had moments in life where things weren't going well, and we felt overwhelmed by life in general. Sandra may have had moments in her life where she thought of taking the easy way out, but again, from personal experience, I know that better and brighter days are ahead. I look back on those times where I thought of just giving up, and I'm so glad I didn't, because I'm happier now than I've ever been in my entire life. 

So again, Sandra Bland did not kill herself. Regardless of what past problems she had, she had too much to live for, and she realized that.  Her family says she was due to start a new job. She had a life and a purpose, but her life was taken before she could see what lay ahead of her. The woman in the initial traffic stop video was a fighter. If she was going to fold and be the weak female the officer expected her to be, she would have never responded with a snappy comment when he told her she seemed irritated, which was his way of being an asshole, just because he could. Below is the final video that she posted. Watch, share, and discuss it with as many people as possible. They can't keep doing this to us, y'all. Because our justice system is a joke and has failed black people too many times to count in the past, I have no faith in that system that we will ever know what really happened to her in her cell. We'll get the version of the story they want us to believe, but any fool can see the truth. 
We have to make our voices be heard, one way or another, and that's what Sandy did, until she was silenced forever.



Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Author Promo Video

I don't measure my success by that other authors or doing or have done. To me, success is anytime you have a dream, and you take the necessary steps needed to make that dream become a reality. 

I've always been an avid reader, which lead to me writing stories of my own. I had stories o in notebooks and saved on my laptop, with no clue as to how to go about getting them published. Once I learned there was such a thing as self-publishing, I Googled any and everything I could find to show me how to go about self-publishing my own work. It's not easy...I've spent many long hours locked away in my room, unintentionally neglecting my family so that I could write, sometimes late into the night. 

Once I published my first book on Amazon, I have not stopped writing. I found a way to turn my hobby, into a business, and I don't plan on slowing down any time soon. Below is a video of what I've accomplished so far. Whatever your passion is, stop wishing and start DOING!!!! You never know what you can accomplish once you take the first step. 

#BeYourOwnBiggestFan #MakeSomethingHappen #DreamsCanComeTrue



Sunday, July 19, 2015

Serious Questions I want/need answered about Scooby Doo



It's a lazy Sunday and as I'm channel surfing, I came across Scooby Doo on Cartoon Network. This cartoon has been my favorite since I was in like, the third grade. It's one of  those tv shows that instantly transports you back to your childhood, when everything was easy breezy, life was plain and simple. I didn't have kid's, bills, husband's draining the life out of me slowly (sarcasm) My biggest worry was doing math and spelling homework, what I was going to wear to school the next day, or occasionally, doing small chores around the house. 

But as I'm watching my favorite throwback cartoon, I realize that watching this through the eyes of an adult, things just don't add up or make sense to me, like they did when I watched as a child, and I'm going to talk about those things in this post.

1. Where the hell were these kid's parents? No, for real...where were they? I know this cartoon debuted back in the late 1960's, but I have a hard time believing that four kids and their dog were like, "Mom, dad...I'm dropping out of school, and I'm going to run off with a few friends of mine so we can drive around the world, solving mysteries," and the parents were like, "Okay!" These days, if kids miss too many days of school, a note is sent home, and the parents better have a good excuse as to why there are so many unexcused absences, or they may find themselves fined, in jail, or both. No to mention, CPS will definitely come for you. 



2. Assuming the parents gave the nonchalant, Kanye shrug after the kids either told them they were quitting school to become teenage sleuths, did the gang decide to just take off with only the clothes on their backs, without packing a suitcase, or what? Because for the entire series, which originally lasted from 1969-1971, they all wore the same clothes...every episode. Okay look, so for two or three years, they were the Mystery Inc. Gang.. on the road winter, summer, spring, and fall. So, they expect us to believe that Daphne and who I now know to be Velma (I'll explain this later) ran around in those mini skirts and no coats? It gets pretty nippy from October-February...the winter months, so why did we never see them in pants or jackets? And also, if we're to believe they all wore those same smelly clothes, day in and day out, did they never run across a laundry mat? When, where, and how did they bathe, if ever? 2 smelly guys and a dog all on that van...I can only imagine.

3. Okay, back to VELMA- ever since I was eight years old, watching Scooby Doo in the mornings while mama did my hair for school, I thought her name was Thelma...like Thelma Evans on Good Times. It wasn't until very recently that I learned that I had been wrong, all along. I was in Walmart one day, and they had Barbie doll versions of all of them, and I see Velma. I was like, who at Mattel messed up and put the wrong name on the box? Then I find out, I was wrong...childhood ruined. Who names a child Velma, anyway?

4. Okay, I think everybody over the age of thirty has come to the conclusion that Daphne and Fred were getting their freak on. Y'all know he ALWAYS wanted her to go off with him...ALONE...you do the math. But, since they had a thing going on, I wonder if Shaggy and VELMA got tired of being third and fourth wheels, and engaged in a little hanky panky of their own? And what did poor Scooby Doo (see what I did there) while the humans were off being mannish? In most of the horror movies from the seventies, the teenagers were all having sex, which is why they were always getting killed, so it's not too far-fetched to think that these teenaged cartoon kids were gettin' it on too. Inquiring minds really wanna know...



5.  Keeping it all the way real, there were two girls in the gang. And, thanks to Eve eating the fruit in the Garden of Eden, women have been subjected to the dreaded menstrual cycle, right? So, again, are we to believe that even during that time of the month, Daphne and Velma were happily gallivanting around in shorts skirts with no worries, having happy periods, like those chicks in the Tampon commercials, because I ain't buying it. Cramps, bloating, fatigue, backache....not to mention that when it's that time of the month, all I want to put on are baggy sweats and the biggest, baggiest t-shirt I can find...I wouldn't be solving any mysteries for a week out of each month, so what did they do during that time? Did they sit in the truck and let the other's handle it? 



6. Did they get paid to solve mysteries? I mean, they were four kids and a rather scary dog, with no weapons or anything to defend themselves from the monsters, witches, and ghosts, and while they could be considered brave, I wouldn't have been doing the police's job for them...not for free. Police have weapons..they don't; so if they wanted me out there chasing men in scary masks and costumes, somebody needs to come up off of a few coins. How did they have gas money to fill up the mystery machine so they could go solve more mysteries, if they weren't getting paid? How did Shaggy have money for his weed and all that food he ate? Who sold him the weed? That stuff costs money...




7. Since we're on the subject of Shaggy, was he really the stoner that we all thought he was? I mean, he stayed eating anything and everything in sight, yet was really skinny..a dead giveaway. Plus, he just always had that blank, nonchalant look about him, like he was thinking, "I really don't give a damn about these ghosts and monsters, I just wanna go get high..." He smoked so much weed that when he really got the munchies, he'd pull a Deebo, and take the dog's snacks...it didn't even matter to him. Poor Velma; if she did ever hook up with him, it had to had been out of pure desperation. 



I guess that's why cartoons are created for the kids...they don't give a second thought to dogs that can talk, or to kids who should be in school, but are driving around the world together, instead. As a child, I didn't think about any of these things either. But as an adult, I'm concerned. If my 16 year old son is not home at a certain time, I go into panic mode, so did their parents really just not care, or what? I'll probably never get the answers to these questions, but I'll always wonder...  
   


Thursday, July 16, 2015

Why Future Is The King of Bitchassness...

Okay, I've been out of the dating game for about eight years now, and a lot of men were just too exhausting to deal with back when I was still single and looking, so I would imagine that it's only gotten worse. We all know there are still some good intelligent, black men out there, but sometimes it's hard as hell to get to them. Women have to kiss a lot of frogs to finally get a prince, and even then, we hope we won't look over one day and find a creepy, slimy toad where the man we married used to lay. But, even though I haven't been in the game, I still talk to single women, and read what they post on social media, and it seems that the men in the dating pool have only gotten worse... and by worse, I mean they have turned into whiny, petty, immature little boys, which is where the prase bitchassness comes in.

I first heard Diddy use this term on his show, Making The Band, and didn't really think much about it; but here lately, every time I look on social media and see yet another interview where Future is still talking about Ciara, that's the only phrase that comes to mind. 

So, in case you don't know the story,  I'll try to give a brief recap: Future was the love interest in Ciara's video, Body Party (the video where she did the sexy strip tease routine in front of him, rolling around and gyrating all over the floor) So, as with most famous folks, they fell in lust on set, and began sleeping together. At first, I thought they were a cute couple, until I learned that Future already had three other chirren, by three different women. This obviously didn't bother Ciara, as she became baby mama number four a short time later. Now, they were supposed to be getting married (because something about B.M. *baby mama* number four had Future supposedly wanting to settle down). All the B.M.'s were even posing for family photos together, with claims that they all got along with each other, and were one big happy family...kind of like some Sister Wives ish. Then, as suddenly as the engagement was announced, it was called off by Ciara, after she learned that Future had cheated on her, although I'm not sure if it was with one of the three prior B.M.'s or future B.M. number five. Anyway, Ciara was heartbroken (although most people felt she shouldn't have been shocked at all), as she was now the newest member of the Single Mom's Club. Even though she definitely should have known, I still felt sorry for her, because I too fell for a few wannabe bad boys back in the day, only to end up looking stupid in the end. So, I rooted for her to bounce back, and maybe find herself another man that would treat her right, because all women over the age of thirty-five once lived by the philosophy that 'there's no better way to get over one man, than to get under another one.' Okay!!!

So, now that you're caught up on the Future/Ciara love scandal, it seems Ciara lives by this philosophy too, because she didn't waste any time finding her a new man. Before we could even finish speculating on exactly who Future cheated and probably impregnated next, Ciara rolled up to the White House States Dinner on the arm of Russell Wilson- cute, NFL player for the Seattle Seahawks, 2013 Superbowl winner & 2014 Superbowl contender, Russell Wilson- definitely an upgrade from Future- the talentLESS rapper/wannabe thug. People were cheering for Ciara like she'd played the game of chess with Future, and was when she won the match, she gave face like, 'checkmate bitch,' as she posed for photos with her new beau, Russell. And in typical, bitchass fashion, Future is NOT happy about it.

Ever since it was announced that Russell and Ciara are indeed a couple, Future can't shut up about her. First, he went on and on about how he didn't care that she'd moved on and upgraded- even though he cared enough to make that statement. Next, he did an interview with @MarcLamontHill, where he talked about their sex life after he was asked what he thought about the fact that Russell and Ciara have made the decision to wait until they're married to have sex. Rather than avoid the question, he had to put it out there that Ciara hadn't minded doing the nasty with him...before they were married, in that douchebaggy way...letting it be known they had a sex life, and seemingly mocking the fact that Russell chooses to wait. As if that wasn't bad enough, now he's playing the ultimate bitchass card: complaining about the fact that Russell was seen pushing his and Ciara's son's stroller one day when they were out. If this boy don't get somewhere and sit his ass down. Future got fifty-eleven chirren, he doesn't give a damn about that...he just wants to have something to bitch about in regards to Ciara...the girl he cheated on, so he can stay relevant, while at the same time, hopefully drum up enough publicity so people will buy his next wack album. 

I've seen things like this on tv before (i.e Ray J and the fact that every time he needs to become relevant again, he brings up his sex tape with Kim Kardashian) Hell, I've even dealt with it in my own life. Men HATE to see a woman move on before they do, and especially with someone with more class, better looks, and more money than he has, and that's Future's problem. I'm sure he's screwed a few THOT's- during and after his relationship with Ciara- but he still can't stand the fact that rather than go get some random guy who probably only wanted to see what she was like in bed, she got a GOOD MAN- one who went on record saying he'd wait until they married to have sex. Now, I personally think that all bedroom talk shouldn't be the media or the public's business, but the key words Russell used were "after we get married" meaning, there's a possibility that it could happen one day. Whether his relationship with Ciara is real or a publicity stunt (as some people believe it to be, mainly Wendy Williams) Russell seems to be quite smitten with him some CiCi, and it's making Future roll around on the floor, throwing a temper tantrum, like the immature child that he is- BITCHASSNESS!!!!!



I've always known that men like to gossip about what they do in bed with their women with their homies, and it may or may not be the whole truth by the time the story gets told; hell, women kiss & tell sometimes, too. But, when you start telling any and everybody who will listen about your sex life with someone, especially when it's on national television and after the relationship is over and the person has moved on, it makes you look bitter, spiteful, and stalkerish. As Wendy Williams likes to say, nobody's checking for these pathetic men, and they weren't relevant until they got with a woman who was. And nobody was checking for Future or his wack music, until he got with Ciara. Ray J. was and still is a nobody, but that sex tape with Kim will always get him a little attention, whenever it's brought up. Nick Cannon had his own coins before he married Mariah, I'll give him that; but he mentions her name so much on Wild'n Out, he acts like making jokes and wisecracks about her is the only way to make people pay attention to him, because we love us some Mariah, dahhling! 

All of this makes me wonder, what happened to the real men? It's like they're becoming extinct, a dying breed. Between reading up on the relationships of the rich, famous, and wannabe famous, and listening to girlfriends talk about how hard it is finding a half-way decent man these days, I'll forever be single if I ever get a divorce, because I simply can't and won't deal with the bitchassness from these boys. I'm sure in the time it took me to write this post, Future has done yet another interview about Ciara. He's not fooling me at all. He knows what he's doing- he's hoping that all the interviews and comments he keeps making about Ciara, will eventually cause a rift between her and Russell..because most men would rather leave a woman, than to deal with crazy ex-boyfriend/husband drama, even if he really likes her. The whole, "she shouldn't have Russell around my child," is just another way to try to control her...

I just hope Ciara doesn't fall for it. That's the oldest trick in the book, and pathetic losers like Future know that if he plays that card, it'll make Ciara feel bad about moving forward with her relationship with Russell. I only pray she doesn't fall for it. Ciara girl, I know you're not reading this, but in the unlikely event that you are, don't fall for it. The minute you dump Russell, or he leaves you because of this, Future has won. He'll be on his merry little way with B.M. number 8, 9, 10, while you're old and alone. Live your life, girl because you had no real future with your sperm donor.